I have passed the garment hurdle

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I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by FiveFingerMnemonic » Tue Mar 31, 2020 4:29 pm

Because of home church bringing up some uncomfortable discussion content, I took the opportunity to have a crucial conversation regarding garment wear and it actually facilitated a less emotionally charged transition than if I had just stopped wearing them without discussion.

So far I'm on 2 days and 2 nights without and no tears shed.

My wife told me she knows mine are in terrible shape and she acknowledged the long amount of time I have been without a recommend and knew it was an issue. I told her how I couldn't bear buying new ones from the church given my change in belief.

It worked out better than I could have imagined. Of course she is still sad about it but I think open conversation mitigated some of the stress for both of us.

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Re: I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by RubinHighlander » Tue Mar 31, 2020 5:19 pm

Woot! Digital high five! Congrats!
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Re: I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by jfro18 » Wed Apr 01, 2020 11:23 am

Congrats... it's a huge bandaid to rip off, but I think you did it in a much better way than just trying to not wear them around.

When I went back to normal underwear, it was such a weight off of me. It did make me resent the church for making my wife wearing them more as they are possibly the least attractive underwear and shirts ever created, but it is what it is.

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Re: I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by Red Ryder » Wed Apr 01, 2020 5:37 pm

Congrats!

Now go and get Five Finger Eve to partake!
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Re: I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by Hagoth » Tue Jun 30, 2020 3:57 pm

Just bumping this to see how it's going for you 5FM. I'm on my second week and it's been smooth sailing.
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Re: I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by FiveFingerMnemonic » Tue Jun 30, 2020 4:08 pm

My wife has adjusted in a healthy manner and I am really enjoying not wearing 2 shirts in the hot summer weather. I also like not having white poly-cotton hanging out from shorts and necklines signaling virtue and compliance to the world.

It's a nice lifestyle improvement.

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Re: I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by RubinHighlander » Wed Jul 01, 2020 11:11 am

FiveFingerMnemonic wrote:
Tue Jun 30, 2020 4:08 pm
My wife has adjusted in a healthy manner and I am really enjoying not wearing 2 shirts in the hot summer weather. I also like not having white poly-cotton hanging out from shorts and necklines signaling virtue and compliance to the world.

It's a nice lifestyle improvement.
Excellent well!

With some additional privacy fabric on the west fence, I'm enjoying even less (sometimes zero) clothing in the backyard on these warm summer evenings. Spy at your own risk!
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Re: I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by Hagoth » Wed Jul 01, 2020 8:07 pm

RubinHighlander wrote:
Wed Jul 01, 2020 11:11 am
Spy at your own risk!
I'm pretty sure I spotted your goods on GoogleEarth!
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Re: I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by Hagoth » Wed Jul 01, 2020 8:13 pm

FiveFingerMnemonic wrote:
Tue Jun 30, 2020 4:08 pm
My wife has adjusted in a healthy manner and I am really enjoying not wearing 2 shirts in the hot summer weather. I also like not having white poly-cotton hanging out from shorts and necklines signaling virtue and compliance to the world.

It's a nice lifestyle improvement.
That's for sure. I was already ditching the jammies at every opportunity: camping, outdoor activities, yardwork... but now it's really nice to be comfortable all the time.

Also, I no longer get those exorcist-holy-water-style burns.
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Re: I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by slavereeno » Wed Jul 08, 2020 1:03 pm

Nicely done. I should have had more discussion before trying to ditch mine.

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